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September 4, 2014
Get Connected

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Illustration of Anna Dello Russo & Friend at MB Fashion Week 

To break it all down – life is about connection and that means consistently connecting to what we love.

When we open up to this basic yet underrated foundation of ensuring that our day includes things that bring us joy and light us up, all of our life will be enhanced (especially the not so fun times).

Get connected to the things you love, on a daily basis, no matter what.
This means having a daily ritual – one that you can call on to ground you and start your day.

Simple things like your morning coffee to your workout are sure-fire ways to connect to things that give you peace and happiness.

On a larger scale, it’s about connecting to your true passions, your purpose and the people you love.

Take a moment to redefine the rituals you blindly go through every day to see how you can create a rejuvenating retreat starting from the moment you get out of bed. Focus on the things you have always wanted to accomplish and get connected to that. Write it down and visualize how you want it to go.

The dreams you were given were created uniquely and especially for YOU because you have the tools innately to achieve them. 

Never doubt your dreams or your intuition. Whenever I have done so it lead to so much agony and internal conflict it is crazy – crazy and beyond unnecessary.  Give in to the greater purpose of your life and don’t be afraid – you were BORN to do this!

Today marks the start of Spring Summer 2015 Fashion Week in Lincoln Center and I am beyond excited to be getting back into my dream of being a fashion designer and really connecting to all of my passions.

I can’t wait to see all the new looks the designers showing this season have dreamed up. Each season it serves as fresh inspiration for me to see the magic of the runway and dreams come to life…..

Hope that inspires you!
xo
Emily

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August 22, 2013
Pleasure vs. Success and dealing with Burn out

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“If you go for success, pleasure is 50/50. If you go for pleasure, success is guaranteed.” Quoted the founder of Boom, Cindy Joseph.

I recently read this statement and it was quite interesting to hear.

“Pleasure is suspicious in our society but if you are honest with yourself and what you really want your only hope of happiness is going for what gives you immense pleasure” Cindy said.

People are judged pretty heavily based on their successes and their enjoyment of life.  If you see a hard working person who is grunting and complaining of the pains in their life, but who appears to have it all, money, cars, a relationship, nice things, great job, etc. this person is most always regarded as successful even if they seem to not be enjoying the process.  Sometimes these people even go as far as complaining on purpose to even the playing ground, to make others around more comfortable and downplay their actual happiness and successes.

On the flip side when a person is successful BECAUSE they are enjoying life, having fun and living their desires they are almost always regarded with a negative attitude (or perhaps jealousy) and even deemed to have “stumbled upon success”, to have been “handed it” or worse remarks that are so far from the truth.

Why does pleasure have to be guilty?  If I want to have a mid afternoon chocolate break (instead of coffee) and also enjoy working out – what really is the problem?  But we as a society really enjoy making pleasure seem guilty.   After my chocolate break I am hard wired and programed (by society) to feel bad that I indulged.  Why?

I honestly have no idea but it is absurd! What’s the point in living life if you truly can’t enjoy it!!!?!!?

Whoever heard of the saying “You can’t have your cake and eat it too!?”  WHY WOULD YOU HAVE CAKE IF YOU CAN’T EAT IT TOO!?!?!?  This is perplexing!  I understand this proverb is about trade-offs in life but why does pleasure have to be a trade-off?

Why can’t we have it all?

Well.  My answer to that is we can, actually, have it all.  When following your heart’s desire you are on the path to success – headed towards living a life beyond your wildest dreams. So go for it, and keep on going for it.  You will always be successful if you are following your passion.

Now, in terms of burn out: “You run long and hard, you get tired. That’s a fact. Marathoners don’t criticize themselves after a race for being exhausted. They rest.” – Danielle LaPorte.

 

I couldn’t have said it better myself.

When doing your Passion work, you are highly likely to face burn out at one point or anther. That’s ok. It’s normal. You should.

Danielle goes on to say:

-As the legend goes, when the Phoenix resurrects from the flames, she is even more beautiful than before.

 

-“Life balance” is an insidious myth. Picasso, Oprah, Steve Jobs, Einstein, Maria Callas – they weren’t aiming for balance, they were aiming to rock their genius, and they’ve all had periods of burn out.

-On the seventh day, even God rested.

-Take stock of all you’ve accomplished. You’ve come far, baby. And you’ve got the road rash and the muscle definition to prove it.

And lastly

Burn out is a natural part of shining. Naturally. I welcome it now.

Thanks Danielle.

And now I invite YOU to go find your biggest desires and make them come true.  Do your Passion work, shine bright, burn out, rest, and do it all over again and then repeat. This is how you serve the world with your gift and keep on giving.

Hope that inspires you!
xoxo

Emily

April 25, 2013
Spring Fling

Screen Shot 2013-04-18 at 2.27.30 AMSpring is in the air and I am totally loving it.

I am so inspired by the gorgeous pastels of the flowers, the aroma of new grass and blossoms, the colorful spring fashion and the crisp fresh air.

The bustling of people coming out from indoors to grab a few minutes in the sun is so splendid to watch.  It’s like a fashion show all over again on the streets. People are ditching their overcoats to don cropped pants and tops in mint green, purples, pinks and crisp whites.  It’s such a breath of fresh air compared to the heavy winter black coats we have all been bundled in.

Look around and get inspired. There are so many wonderful things happening this time of year and it’s so important to appreciate it.

Spring is a rebirth.  It’s time to start over and express yourself clearly. Take it as a clean slate and paint the picture you want for you life.  Manifest the dream that you have been replaying in your head.

What would it take to live that life? Probably only the repeated habit of doing the opposite of what you are currently doing.  Wherever you are in your life… if you are not where you want to be, do the opposite of what you are doing now.  If you are where you want to be, dig deeper and see how you can give and create more.

Something I’ve just recently drilled into my head is a little miracle worker called the Ultimate Success Mantra.  Straight from the book “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks.

Basically it is something so transformational that I had to share.

The ultimate success mantra is this: “I expand in abundance, success and love every day, as I inspire those around me to do the same.”

Say that in your mind often. When you let that sink in to your head, and I mean really let that sink in – it changes everything.  What would this mean if it were true? If this is what we are meant to do, it gives us permission to be so much more, and not be afraid of what any one thinks or what we’ve been told. It makes it ok for our light to shine bright, as our shining bright inspires others to shine bright as well.  This is so brilliant! (Forgive the pun!) There is more than enough for everyone and when we grow, it inspires others to grow too. It allows others to speak their minds and to accept greatness into their lives.

What would the spring flower be if it didn’t bloom? Would the neighboring flower not bloom because there wasn’t enough space for both of them? No.

I’m not sure if you believe in this stuff and maybe this isn’t up your ally. However, if it is – I challenge you to throw this mantra around in your head a bit and really let it seep in. Understand it’s meaning and fight against the naysayers in your head.  As the author Gay Hendricks says, “Back-talk is a good thing. It means the ultimate success mantra is working.”

Challenge yourself and challenge your spring renewal.  How can you inspire others by expanding in love, abundance and success everyday?

Hope that inspires you!
xoxo

Emily

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

September 27, 2012
The gap between taste and ambition

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I recently opened my inbox to find Marie Forleo’s latest email titled

How to Overcome your fear of Success, and with it – a vlog:

This had my name written A.L.L. over it.  For those of you who know me, you probably don’t think I have a fear of success. Well in all actuality I do, and it is probably my greatest fear – along with my fear of failure.  Double edged sword much? Damned if you do Damned if you don’t? Yeah – that’s a stressful sandwich to be in.  Walking the path of my spiritual journey this is a predicament I have been itching to put to rest.

Through Marie’s vlog I was introduced to her interviewee; Dr. Cathy Collautt, and it seems she or this, is what I have been searching for!

A way to finally reprogram your subconscious and get it to play on your team, no matter what your fear.

She also writes a really compelling blog, as she is a proclaimed Metaphysician and Manifesting coach – Manifesting coach – where have you been all my life!

In her blog  she made a really interesting point, on Dissatisfaction, and the gap between taste and ambition.  She says that Dissatisfaction is the recognition of this gap, the space between what we desire and the current “fruits of our labor”.  Maybe you are working so hard, yet you are not where you would like to be. She says “You are disappointed because of your taste, and your taste gives away your potential, i.e. the possibility that presently exists of what you might in time become. . . You weren’t an idiot for thinking you could, you were simply aware of your potential. . . Your recognition of the gap between what you want to produce and what you actually produced itself means there is more to you than that.”

I think sometimes it’s really good to hear that you or I am not crazy, when other people perhaps think it’s good enough.
The only way to truly be satisfied is when your taste matches your ambition, and the work you put out.   It’s a process – a process of doing and doing and in time eventually getting there.

There is nothing wrong with keeping your sites on the stars when you, in other people’s opinions have already been to the moon. It’s about self-discipline and commitment, something that should not be taken lightly.

This intertwines very well with the idea of training your subconscious mind to over come your fears, and to never let them block you again. You can see the steps in Marie’s video but to sum it up:

You must listen to your subconscious mind, and understand that what it is telling you about (in this circumstance) why you are afraid to succeed, and these are your non-negotiables.

I never thought about it that way.

So if you are afraid of being super successful because you fear you will loose your freedom and have no time for yourself or no time to be truly creative – Or you think you will loose time with family and friends and therefore lead to them resenting you, or maybe being jealous of your success if they are not moving at the same pace that you are – Then your non-negotiables are keeping your freedom, and keeping tight relationships with family and friends.

This is part of why I am afraid of real, uber success, I never want to loose those things. For you, your reasons may be different.

I felt really good about knowing that instead of me being afraid to loose these things, these are things that I held really dear and sacred.  Dr. Collautt goes on to say, figure out exactly what this means to you and make a commitment to yourself to continue to hold those things sacred, and to not go in the direction of loosing these things along the way, under any circumstances.

Success can be what feels good to you, and on your terms.  My definition of success, and I think even our generations’ vision of it has changed drastically in the past 10 years.  Growing up we thought it was sitting at a big desk in a shoulder padded suit, choosing between a career and family, not coming home for dinner and being so lonely in your expensive clothes and briefcase.  Today for us it has changed, we have seen so many entrepreneurs do it their way, on their terms and fit in the most important things in their life.  I think its really cool knowing, and I mean REALLY KNOWING that we have the power to create our reality and create the life we want to live. Now, even more than ever.

Hope that inspires you to life the life you want to live!

xoxo

Emily

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